Deny, Blame, Make Excuses

We cannot overcome entitlement thinking and pursue the Hard Way if we deny, blame and make excuses. And we cannot help other people overcome an entitlement mindset if we respond with impatience, a lack of understanding, or frustration. Not knowing what can cause entitlement makes the Easy Way the only way.

Once we recognize entitlement, we can start to address it in ourselves and others by understanding where it originates. Though entitlement thinking is a personal choice, it is influenced by a person’s upbringing and key relationships.

In reality, we all have some degree of entitlement mentality. It’s part of being human. When Eve ate the forbidden fruit and shared it with Adam in the Garden of Eden, she thought she was special enough to be like God. All humans inherited that sinful thinking.

Knowing that we can fall prey to an entitlement mentality should help us show compassion to others with the same problem. It’s possible that people with the biggest entitlement issues are people who have not been shown the mercy and grace they need to change. In effect, anyone who has responded to an entitled person with a lack of compassion could be exacerbating the problem.

Now that we know the origin of entitlement, we can see how communication, both verbal and physical, impact the the choice to take the Easy Way. Follow this blog for the next post in the entitlement series based on Dr. John Townsend’s book The Entitlement Cure.

©, April 30, 2018


J. Townsend, The Entitlement Cure Finding Success In Doing Hard Things The Right Way, Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2015. pp. 31-37.

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